A friend of mine is having a lil dilemma lately coz she doesn’t know how to decide between 2 guys. Let’s call them P and W.
See, she knew W from school and they get along real well. She thinks he’s sweet, nice, caring and thoughtful. He even helps her print extra notes, msgs her to check if she is stressed, does all the gentlemanly stuff etc. Basically, he’s Mr Nice Guy.
Unfortunately, there’s a problem my friend cannot stand and that is…… His height.
Apparently, this friend of mine is soooooooo particular about height that she absolutely cannot accept anyone below 1.75m. (She’s about… 1.67?)
On the other hand, there’s P, who is from a totally different background. Although P is not thoughtful at all, and rather egoistic who loves to talk about himself all the time, he is tall.
So when she came to me for advice, my obvious answer is W right?? But her violent reaction towards the height issue kinda startled me. I was taken aback by how she’d rather try to develop feelings with Mr Ego here than give Mr Nice Guy a chance. All because of height?
Well, to be honest, I used to think height was important too. However, over the years I learnt to be practical and my standards fell from 1.8m….. to 1.78m….. to 1.75m….. to, well, its non-existent now.
The point is, is it really feasible to set criterias in looking for your future partner? My bf’s not tall, not handsome and there’s a million things I wish he could improve on. But the bottomline is, I’m still glad that I have him.
You may ask me why. In fact, alot of people like to ask “Why do you love your boyfriend/girlfriend?” And I’ve heard people actually try to answer that, when in fact, I don’t think there should be an answer to it at all! I mean, if your answer is “Oh I love my bf coz he gives me a sense of security”, does it mean you wouldn’t love him once he can’t give you that? Is love as simple and straightforward with no shroud of greyness?
As stupid as it sounds, I think love is all about giving. You don’t quite know why, but you just seem to keep giving and giving your everything for this person. Even though he may piss you off till you feel like strangling him.. Even though he may be a far cry from other people’s bf.. Even though you feel like slapping yourself to wake yourself up.. So even if one day you wake up and realise that this guy lying next to you is the biggest jerk in this world, and there’s no remotely comprehensible reason why you should love him… Well, you’ll still continue giving because you still love him.
Love seeketh not Itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care;
But for another gives its ease,
And builds a Heaven in Hells despair.
sounds to me like, it’s an excuse,
the nice guys always, finally lose,
height is important, for bees and for birds,
we’d date *anyone*, if we don’t have standards
one question, before the exit i take,
were the last verses written, by willy blake?
haha yah its william blake.
do you always talk in rhymes and verses? lol
in verse and rhyme,
i do like best,
when it’s commenting time,
so the answer’s “yes”
Why do you think that dating a man shorter is lowreing your standards? Are short men criminals or something, are they bad people, are they crap? Or are you saying that because a feeble, materialistic society tells you that short men are just undesirable?
^ I think he’s short.