After the love is gone September 7, 2008

I recently changed my msn add (due to *ahem* reputation issues) and I’ve been keeping track of who has accepted me and who has yet to, just in case msn screws up or some people dunno who I am. Anyway, the point is, I realised that a certain someone (let’s call him J) has yet to add me.

 

J is my ex-boyfriend and we dated for a short while back in…… 2005? Yups. And we got along quite well and had quite abit of fun……………. Ok, fine! I lied! It felt awesome being with him and I cried buckets for months. Zzzzzz………

 

So, the question is, why wouldn’t he add me to his msn list? Well, let’s see……….

 

Possibility 1: Maybe he hasn’t been online? (Not possible, coz I noticed he was the sort who came online everyday.)

 

Possibility 2: Maybe he doesn’t know the msn add belongs to me? (Not possible, unless he’s really stupid since my new add is pretty self-explanatory.)

 

Which leaves us too……..

 

 

Possibility 3: Maybe he hates me for breaking his heart and leaving him 3 years ago!

 

 

 

DING DING DING!!! I think we have a WINNER here!!!

 

Which would also explain why he hasn’t added me to facebook yet. -_-

 

I really don’t understand what kinda grudge could he possibly bear??? Firstly, HE was the one who wanted to break up with me (ok ok maybe I did something wrong too). Secondly, it has been 3 freaking years! Like, get over it man and move on!

 

Lastly, which I think is the part that baffles me the most, why must someone use hatred as an excuse to get over their ex??? I remember he once mentioned that he used hatred to get over his first gf, which was back in JC. And ever since then, he has not spoke to her ever. So I guess I’m not exactly the first.

 

But what I don’t understand is, is it really that hard for 2 people to be normal friends even after breaking up? I mean, it was beautiful while it lasted, so why must things turn ugly and both parties hate each other to the core? There has to be some form of chemistry that brought 2 people together, so wouldn’t it be perfect if they could continue being friends and share secrets and problems and then end up being each other’s bestman/ maid of honour? (Haha.. Sorry just watch Made of Honour last night) By converting your hurt into hatred and channeling it all onto 1 person, not only do you lose the one you love, you lose a potentially very very very good friend as well.

 

So, to YOU – I really hope you can put behind everything that happened back then and let’s all be friends again. You’re a sensitive, humorous and caring guy and I would really love to get to talk to you and catch up with you.